'He told me I chose our cat over moving in together': Manipulative husband gets his wife a cat, then forces her to choose between keeping the cat and moving in with him, leading her to want to divorce

Cats are always the best indicator of red flags in your partner.

We truly think that cats are like truth detectors. They may not always be able to tell you who is a good partner for you and who is not, but they will give you the signs. The way that your partner treats your cats means so much. If your partner is jealous of your cat and doesn't know how to deal with you showing your cat affection, that's a problem. If your partner thinks that you kissing your cat is disgusting and refuses to kiss you if you do, that's another problem. And if your partner, one day, gives you an ultimatum: it's either them or the cat, then we think that the choice should be a clear one.

Of course, it's never easy to make that choice. It's never easy to put your relationship off to the side because of the signs that your partner gives you. It's why we think that you should have the cat conversation early. The sooner you get to an agreement when it comes to your pets, the smaller the chance that you will end up in the situation that this woman and her husband ended up in.

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"My M19 thinks I’m F20 thinks I’m choosing our cat over living together what to do?"

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So many red flags. All over this story. We don't even know where to start. It honestly sounds like this man doesn't even like this woman, let alone love her. And that hurts. Reading that - all the things that she is putting up with - it is so painful. Especially when she is someone so young, who was clearly so hopeful about this marriage. She deserves better. And the cat that she has and loves certainly deserves better as well. We hope that there are people around her who can help, who can guide her, because although the advice here on this thread is good, we don't know if it is quite enough for her to take the steps that she needs to take to change her situation. We wish her luck. And we hope she never lets go of this cat. He is better than her man.
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We are glad to see her taking this advice to heart. And we hope that she legitimately implements it. The more time she spends with him, the more difficult it is going to be to leave, for many reasons. The sooner the better. We wish her so, so much luck, and hope that she will have all the strength that she needs to do what needs to be done.
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